Raj, I really liked your blog and wanted to say something. One can write such a beautiful blog only when he is in love. Congratulation buddy !!!

Well well , love marriage or arranged marriage , I feel compatibility matters the most. If someone has already risen in love ( not fallen u see ) , I believe he or she has the right to marry the person they love. But not everyone falls or rather rises in love , so in that case , if family members select someone for them , I think the boy and the girl should have courtship to know each other well and then decide their future. I believe parents always think the best for their kids. So if they are against a particular match , I think the kids find out the reason for their refusal. If the reason behind the refusal are some trifle stuffs like cast , creed , language , money ,horoscope etc , then I think the kids can try to convince their parents. But , if the reason behind their refusal is something very serious , I think it would be wiser on the part of kids to listen to their parents. Moreover , in my opinion its hard to survive in this cruel world without the blessings of parents .

@mridusmita13..... well compatibility.....good point. Is it not love that make us compatible ? There are people in this world to whom we dont even want to say "hello" and there are people for whom we want to die. If we meet the second category will compatible be an issue with two of us? Everyone may not fall in love but i believe everyone has a dream everyone has hope. Is it not worth waiting to realise the dream ? Now question is should we wait to realise our own dream or should we live it upto our parents will? What happens if a girl get married to a boy with her parents wish, with whom she can't even imagine sharing a kiss? Are not we pushing this girl to hell? Is this world really cruel to fulfill one's own dream ? I don't think so. This world is actually as beautiful as our own thoughts and actions are. I only wish everybody in this world is blessed with love more than anything else.

@ujjwalb... thanks for your comments. I believe in love and feel it is the foundation of life. From your comment it appears to me that only people who are in love can write such a beautiful blog. Does it mean there are people in this world without love too? What is the inspiration to live without love ? Does true love still confined to books, novel, poem and movies in the indian sub continent ?? In the states what i have observed is people goes to any length and does anything in search of true love. There are cases where they thought they found the one and after a few years realised they were not soulmate. They got seperated and searched again their mate. To my view, these people lived many lives in a span of single life time whereas some people from our region not even lived once in their lifetime. Is not it sad ?

aha , yes , in this case , I certainly support Raj that love makes life beautiful Indeed it does. And in today's age I think , true love is rare to find. But yes , true love do exist. Love does not mean only getting , It also means sacrifice. Is love only confined to a boys love for his sweetheart and a girls love for her boyfriend. "Love" is the sweetest word in any language.And what about a father's love for his son/daughter or a mothers affection for her children? Isn't that love? I cannot comment on all , but my parents spent each and every moment on us. They sacrficed lots of things for us. They stopped attending parties because of our exams , they skipped they sleep at night so that we can study overnight without getting bored. They woke up at dawn to take us to tuitions. They gave us the best education, best clothes and ultimately they found for me the best life partner. So from my personal experience I believe , parents think the best for us. And yes , our culture is entirely different , from the western culture. Thats why when people in our socienty get married , we are taught its for life. And compromise , adjustment and sacrifice on the part of both the partners result in a fruitful married life and I belive that is also love. Love does not mean only acquiring. Sacrifice is also another word for love. So , do you think , Britney spears is right when she has broken are marriage several times in search of true love ? Or do you think Jaya Bacchan is right when she sacrificed her career to make her husband and her family go ahead in life and for certain her kids and her husband are doing so well . There were rumours of Amitabh having affair with rekha. But did Jaya Bacchan break her marriage with Amitabh? No , because it was her love for her children that stopped her from doing so.So love is not confined to just a boy and a girl. Love is more to that. Love is also a child's love for his mother /father. A sister's love for her brother.sister, a brothers love for his sister/brother and so on . So , even if we have to sacrifice our love for our parents who did so much for us , cant we even do that when they did so much for us ? Isn't that our duty or should be become so selfish that we should hurt our parents and go our own way. ??

Well i took some time to reply to the last comment. Let me speak my mind here. hmm..i understand what you are trying to say if i am not mistaken to me it seems like meaning or definition of love. Yes love has many avatars or rup or in chemistry which is known as 'polymorphism'. But can we equate a man's love to a beautiful woman to children-mother love? parents-kid love? To me the pleasure of being with the woman one loves is unparallel. The energy, the happiness, the dreams, the life with her ooh there is so much in it !! Well a true love helps you find and rediscover yourself in the person you love in other words finding your soul in that person. You are lucky rituparna that you are with the person you love. There are some couple who got married without having rigt chemistry between them. Just imagine how hard the night would be for them. Where most men return home from work looking forward to spend some time with his dear wife, yet a few return home to a torturing world. A girl waiting in home to hear a few sweet loving words from her dear husband, a warm hand to hold her, a pumped up chest to give a loving hug and yet she gets nothing not even eye contact when the man returns. Definitely a very sad thing. It taks a toll on both the person's health.

i agree wid raj...waise bhi end of the parents wants theer childrns to be happy....thts it...if we r happy wid our loved ones thn thy too happy....so dont think too much..if ur paratnr is best for u n u think u can be hppy wid him or her forevr thn just go ahead m sure one day ur paents will accpt u n thy will proud on ur chioce too...